I don't understand.

I really am having a hard time here. I went to bed crying and I woke up crying. What makes a person say this is the guy for me before she even knows him and then 4 years later turn around and say I think we did this too fast and I don't love you. Not only that but do so AFTER making arrangements to have it be a forever eternal marriage. I just don't understand. Saddest part is that as far as I can tell neither does my baby brother. After 4 year of marriage and the announcement that they were going to be sealed in the SLC temple my SIL is WALKING from the marriage. I talked to my brother last night and asked if he thought it was over and all he could say is that he hoped not but he felt yes that it was.

He bent over backwards for her. He joined the Air force because her dad did and he was going for his pilots license and he had dogs instead of kids. He was trying so hard to be what she needed him to be that he I think forgot himself. I am trying so hard not to go down the path of she just joined the church to marry him route my brothers have taken but honestly that is the way it feels right now. My brother doesn't even want to be around the Air force anymore. If this is it then it is really it for him. These were things he was doing for her and his hear just won't be in it anymore.

I want so bad for him to come here this weekend and be with people who love him. He won't have the good car though because she is going to take it today to go to OK to be with her grandma. So my Bro will be all alone in the house they had together wondering what went wrong. This is just killing me.

Is it WRONG

To hope that the one person that you need to see at least 4 times a week doesn't show today? I have no milk in my house at all and if i needed a day off today would be it. I haven't felt really well all weekend so the house is a mess. the little girl I am supose to watch is now late not really late but late. I HATE having to wait on someone when there is so much I Could and should be doing. This is the most irritating part of babysitting. I tend to feel like a door mat when the client doesn't call and tell me things aren't going well, or that their kid was sick last night and they won't be in. My name ain't MATT and I don't sit in front of a door. If I didn't have less than 20 days of this crap left I would Fire her butt and tell to heck with it. Her child is bossy and demanding as all get out anyway. Not to mention the sassiness that comes out of that mouth. and she is 4. My 12 yo get her mouth slapped for less.

I do plan on doing this full time when school starts next fall. I am hoping for a little more stabillity in the kids I watch though.

Ok enough whinning from me someone help me think of good things QUICK

WOW I am doing it.

I am now 29 weeks and purely shocked at how well things are going. Even babysitting a child that is the most sassy demanding and troublesome child I am still on my feet and I am still Moving No bed rest. I have got things like back pain and BX that come and go but those are considered NORMAL and I am having a NORMAL PG. now if we can just get this kid to tell us what he or she is so I can find clothes then that would be great.

A time to forgive.

first off I have to say I am sorry I am having trouble with the comments. Those that know me know where they can get me and the rest well again I am so sorry.


This week has been very hard on my oldest dd and I. We have been hurt in more ways than one. We have both been hurt by money this week and in some ways my dd will never be the same. For her I think she is losing a friend. She was talking to me last night and her friend has said some things that don't uplift her or our family. Her friend doesn't like the slight change in the rules of our home that I have implemented to help keep them safe. She has said things like she had to hold her nose when she comes in and that I am overly mean for not letting dd sleep over any longer (I am thinking inappropriate words though she would not say). As we talked we soon realized that this friend is not really a friend at all but somebody who is too abrasive and disrespectful to be around any longer. SO this morning I took my dd to school and there will be a change in the morning routine.



Here is where the hard part comes in we both need to forgive those who have wronged us even though we know they won't be part of our life anymore. I need to set the example and truly forgive the person from whom I lost money on. Knowing that I may never see the money really hasn't helped so how do I let it go. how do I Let go of the loss and remember the good? I know it will come and that the more I try the more it will happen. My family (mom, dad) have a hrd time letting go and so I am grateful to a husband who can help me see my actions and really want me to forgive and turn the other cheek. I know good things will come from this I just have to find them. I know a window will open for me and I will be blessed in due time. I know that when I truly forgive my dd will also the the good that comes from this and be able to forgive as well.

letter to my husband.






To my best friend



I wanted you to know how much I care about you.



You are a man of spirit and strength, pride and humility. You work hard for our family, I have failed to support you in some ways and for that I am sorry. I have never doubted that we were to be together, and I love you with every fiber for making sure it was for eternity. I cannot see myself, a princess of Heavenly Father with any other prince. I don't have a wandering eye because there is nothing better out there. When I dream it is your caring eyes I ALWAYS see. Even physically you are the cats meow.


I still see the day we met. when you walked in those doors something stirred, wasn't afraid of you. I wasn't on guard and I didn't put on airs, it was easy to be with you.. You pulled me off a road that at the time I didn't even know was bad for me. You helped me see that My father in heaven truly loves me and I was and I am worthy of being in his presence. You have fought for and with me when no one else would.


You have shown me things I never thought I would see or do. you have given the best things in life to me. You can make me laugh, cry, angry, irritated, and most of all happy. Now (in may) you have create 7 of the most beautiful,wonderful spirits that in my mind will ever walk the planet.


Thank you for letting me make mistakes. Thank you for still loving me wven when you have hated what I had done. I love you with all my heart, no matter what my fly off at the mouth might say.



I love you now and for eternity.

Love Maggie, Margaret, and Mar'Lee.

OK mildy Pariniod but with reason.

today was a hard day and since yesterday was worse I was worn out. Not to mention that my diabetic little friend who doesn't wash passed me her cold, add to that that sometimes (especially when I have a cold) I am terrible about drinking water and it is the perfect recipe for BX that HURT. NOw for most people a few BX (braxton hicks) are no big deal right. Well forme in the past BX have been a BIG precurser to bed rest which I don't want due to the fact that I want to not only to have that happy healthy baby promised me but, selfishly I want to be in UT the end of march SO bad my teeth hurt.

SO anyway during the kids TKD (taekwando) I just don't feel good and I am sore. get the kids home and notice that the SORE is getting a little worse and I can almost predict it. I still have to take dd to her YW activity and they are getting worse. I get home from that and realize A) i'm hungry but not really. B) I have had not one drop of water since this morning (which was just to take an assortment of cold meds) and C) I really have been overwhelmed the last 2 days. I am in tears cause these hurt so bad and I call my husband who is who know how many miles away (mimesota) and tell him pray I can stop them that was all I could say through the tears. THen I call my BF still in tears and her DH answers and i say tell her to call me. At one point he said smile you sound like you aren't and I say cause I can't (another BX) so I get home and DRINK and eat and DRINK. BF calls back and runs through the list and my insanity grows. Tells me to call HT and VT DRINK water, Lay on right side whole blood flow thing and DRINK water. SO I do knowing that if I don't my BF WILL track down said VT and HT and call them for me. They are out on dates HELLO V DAY. Though by this time the BX are calming and I am calming and my kids for the most part are being quiet for me. and hour later my hubbie calls me and I can tell him they are all but gone not so much as a peep in about 30 minutes 30 min later BF calls back and again NOTHING, moral of said story DRINK WATER and chill out. Oh and Just so you all know VT is coming over to help me with the house so that it looks nice and I don't do what I shouldn't.


so all my blogger buddies could you PLEASE remind me to DRINK WATER. there by doing what I need to so that I can get where I want to.

They have awakened the monster

and it is NOT a good thing. From the title I am sure you are aware that this will not be a laugh,think,cry,or brag.
I am now on a rant.



My husband Bless his heart helped clean the entire house on Saturday so that it would be clean when he left( and hoping I am sure that it would be that way when he came home). It took my kids all of 1 day yup one day to destroy every room in the house that and have food in every crack and corner you can think of. I have found pizza crust in the comp desk, Raman noodles in the couch (yes I said IN the couch) and today was was the breaker They have mini chocolate chips in the basement. Now that in and of itself would not have been too bad except the fact that I babysit a type one diabetic who shouldn't eat chocolate from my house. It ain't sugar free and her little 4 year old body can't process it. Well since the boys were trying to hide it of course the 4 year olds found it, and of course she who shouldn't eat it, ate it. So now I get to spend the rest of the day PRAYING that this little girl will not go into sugar shock.

NOt only that but I have dirty socks in the fireplace and shoes all over the house (not like I don't have somewhere to put those things HELLO). I am totally beside myself. I have list after list after list to help them know what they need to do and that they will be rewarded if they do it. I even have the dang rewards. Will they do it? NO,ONLY if they KNOW what the reward is and if it is on THEIR terms not mine. DO they think I am that stupid. Just so you know the monster is going to whip them into submission this evening and this house will be spotless by morning or they may be hurt(figuratively speaking of course).

When the burn hits

And I don't mean heartburn. I told you the next time I posted it would be profound. I am sitting here and thinking. I have a friend whose baby is in the NICU and most of the time I know how
one would just want to be left to their thoughts. I just got this burning in my chest that said just call and let her know you have been there and if she needs an ear give it to her.

It happened last night too as I was sitting in a New beginning for my dd and they were talking about how we are all princess' of a king and all will return to him. I again felt a surge in my chest that i need to redouble and help my dd to focus on her effort as well. I spent all night wondering what I could do and it hit me. I am setting goals out of the YW progress book. I figure that way my dd will see her mother's efforts and hopefully want to follow them. I also asked her if she would read with me in the morning just her and I.

SO my goals for the year are write in my Journal often (get ready this blog is about to be huge) and to read the scripture every morning with my dd 1 page a day.

so I am putting forth a challenge. Lisa, V and Kylie (i know you three read and I read your) and anyone else reading. How do you plan to spiritually enrich your year. Give me goals girls.

Alone again....... and for Vday too.

Well I just dropped the other half of at the airport agian for a weeks trip to the lovely state of Minnesota . Guess what I really don't feel sorry for him. I know that is so bad for me to say. Dang it though they are sending him away for Valentines day and not once did the man say hey my wife may not like this or could we do this next week, no it is just well it is the job.


Ok so maybe just maybe he couldn't reschedule or anything. Do you think the man even tried to make it up to me, well not in MHO he didn't. yesterday we went to Costco Oh the rapture. I am way to big at the moment for any extra curricular activities to be any fun, even Costco wore me out. NOW granted the funds are tight and we went out for my birthday, but really how much does a bunch of lowers and some sweets he knows I like cost. NOT MUCH. Oh he did get some chocolates FOR HIMSELF. I made him share.


In other news we had what should have been a 15 minute talk go for 45 minutes today cutting the other 2 talks to 5 minutes each. After that we had to leave to get the KNUCKLE HEAD ready for his plane. I did get the opportunity to go Vting this after noon and it was good to get out. I was worried about my Partner but now I am thinking this will work out so much better.

This PG has me so irritable lately that I think my kids are afraid of me. I can't get motivated and if I do then I am out of breath in about 10 minutes, I am tired all the time (that whole out of breath thing is part of it) and this child is a night owl like it's mother. Oh and I swear if somebody asks me one more time if I know what I am having or how I am feeling I WILL SCREAM. Though all in all I am doing great. Ok that is enough of my ranting and raving for one day so unless something fanaminal happens I will see you when next I have something profound to say.

The biggest Joy in life.

who would have thought. You know most people I know when you ask them what Makes them happy,they tell me things. a new promotion a dress or a car.

For me it isn't things it is people , small learning people to be exact. lets take for example my almost 2 year old. She has brought me happiness from the day she was born. Now she is learning so many new things. Like how to get dressed and knowing that she likes to brush mommy's hair.

I have to tell you that when she wants to brush my hair I ALWAYS let her. Why? Because each time she does I can count on 2 things, her feet to mess it up at least once so she can do it again, and her head on my shoulder with a "LOBE YOU" to go with it. Yes that is the biggest she is learning to talk and hearing her understand and learn just makes me so happy. At times I think my big ole belly and I could jump over the moon. I have to tell you though that I am wondering if she is really my child. You see part of the things that make me happy are thing NONE of my other children do. She always wants to be dressed and I mean always, she will throw her own diaper in the garbage and I know she is ready to PT . My other kids we had to all but force into doing those things and some we are still working on, but that is another post.

For me beyond happiness is joy. The biggest is knowing who I am and knowing that he loves me unconditionally. Or the ways he shows us his love, Like a foggy quite morning when the night before sounded like world war 3. An attentive friend just when you thought nobody noticed you anymore. A new born baby to show you love grows, Just when you didn't think you could love anymore. His beauty In EVERYTHING around me. My husband sometimes says I am nuts because I can see the beauty in the red cliff outside of Vernal and Moab UT when all he sees are rocks. I love the look of a mountain reflected in a calm lake. I love spring when every flower imaginable come outs to greet the world anew. I love that this is the time we remember Christ's love for us and wanting each of us to get back to him in heaven. In winter there are quite scenes that you wish would never go away (except maybe the cold) . Like a lone icecycle hanging perfectly off the side of the house. A lone bare tree in a field of snow. Summer brings kids playing outside and the sounds of laughter everywhere. Fall well that brings harvest and family. I can't even think of a time in fall where my family isn't around. The pumpkin patch where the pumpkins are bigger than the kids. Thanksgiving where the turkey is SOOO good, and everyone is thankful for what they have around them. Christmas well that one is a mixed bag, there is the overwhelming knowledge That Gods and Christ loved us so much that he came here to live just so we all could go back, and then the excitement of every child who just can't wait to see what is under that tree.

Sorry this kept going but as you can see there are just so many things that bring me joy. I feel so blessed and loved.

Joining the Crowd.

ok so the other blog just wasn't cutting it. SO here I am joining the crowd and posting here instead I Really do hope to make this a more perminant site from here on out.



It has been a crazy day here, though good. Most of my pregnancies have not been the best with me in bed at around 28 weeks till 35 weeks and then a baby shortly there after. A 3 hour glucose test that I barely pass and borderline high blood pressure. NOT THIS TIME. I went to my OB this morning and had a Terrific appointment. Blood pressure Good, 1 Hour glucose PASSED, No contractions baby is moving fine, heart beat is strong and I am still on my feet.

I called my mother to tell her and she actually asked me If I was SURE I was pregnant. You see the only other time that this has ever happened was with my first and that was almost 7 kids ago. Oh BTW the heartburn on this one is the same too. SO there we have it a very unusual PG for me and I am more than happy to take it.

Now I only need 2 things. Ok maybe 3 depending, I need these little baby feet not to kick me in the bladder, I need to know whether those feet belong to a girl or a boy, and if it is a girl I really need to think of a name.

Want to help? I want Gaelic names Middle name starting with an "A" and it has to sound good with my last name. Oh if it is a boy I have Brycen Adam. (note middle name need not be gaelic as long as it sounds good)

MY DAY. February 07, 2007


WOW do I feel OLD. Ok so I don't that is why this seems so weird. how can I have had another birthday it was only yesterday that I was at the high school dances and using triangular curling irons cause it was cool. teasing my hair to the top of the ceiling and watching all the cute boys in the hallway. I was the marching band Geek and in the choir thinking that was the best class of the whole day. Too bad I had to be a dingaling and throw it away. And no not for this life. I love this life.

I never in a million years would have thought that I would have almost 7 kids and love them more than I have ever loved anything in my life. I was worried aobut having one cause of some of the DUMB things I had done. I would have never thought that I would have moved so many times in my life. I mean I was a Farm hick form northern UT who had only moved 1 time in her whole life. and had known nothing but meat and potatoes. I had never even heard of words like Okra and Calamari.

I remember vividly getting up at 430 in the morning to either buck hay or pick Raspberries (I like the raspberries better you could get away with eating a few.) ONe time when I was on my way to go pickin' I was walking down a canal road (you could do that back then at that time in the morning) and saw what I thought was a long haired cat. I called it (being the animal person that I am) and it didn't come I almost went over to pet it when I realized it was NO CAT. It was the only time I ever hit a dead run from a zero start point.

I love my husband for showing me the world and all that is in it. I have grown so much. I love my Heavenly father for giving me this life. who would have have the thought that the best birthday presents I could ever receive would be my almost 2 year old brushing my hair, a letter from my 7 year old with a picture on the back, a list of virtual gift from women I know but have most of never met, and a Phone call from an almost teenager who's orchestra will play me a birthday song.. I don't know what else is in store but it has been a great day so far and I feel mighty blessed for being a 35 year old mother of 7 (almost)


and I love my Vter

She really listens and Really Tries. The other day when she came to the house and helped fold laundry. My kids would not quit talking about how mom is Craving steak. She asked what kind and where was the best place. You name it she asked it.

She was out today and saw Outback (they have good steak) and was going to get me a dinner but they weren't open yet (this was 10 am) so she did her errands and stuff and drove back past it again at 3 and thinking that maybe somebody would be prepping she knocked..... Nobody answered......

So she went to Walmart to see if they had a gift Card so Dh and I could go out and have a nice steak together. She said they had one for Applebee's and Chili's and you name they had just NOT Outback. So instead of give up and just get chocolates and a card she went to the meat department and got the meat guy to get her the best biggest juiciest looking steak she could find.....

I have never felt so loved Nor laughed so hard. Not to mention the fact that she is just the tiniest blonde thing you have ever seen. I swear she is only about 5' and just so bubbly she could put any soda to shame.

So now I get to have Ribeye while the rest of the house gets venison steaks YEAH ME!!!!!!!


I just got the mail and in it was a great BIG package from my secret Valentine. In it were warm fuzzy GREEN slipper socks,A Rose that even sings Elise, and caramel/chocolates. YUMMY so I get everything I want Carmel (cause that is my fav. ) and chocolate and steak cause that is what I have been Craving HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!!!!

Thank you Jamie .... I am smiling ear to ear Literally just as big as that dang alligator.

My hubbie is wonderful when the plans for the steak frell though (the deer wasn't thawed) I told him to go and get burgers. 15 minutes later he had all of in the van and we were gone. No idea where to but we were gone. Now when I say go and get burrgers I am thinking wendy's 99 cent we don't have a great deal of money burgers. NOPE that ain't good enough for My birthday. He took us to Red Robin. He said if we were going to get Burger we might as well make them good burgers. Our waitress was cute and said she was from a big family as well. I told her the main reason we come to Red robin was the bottomless fries and I tell you she just kept them comin' every time we thought we would run out there she was. I ended my day with a bubble bath ALONE and went to bed. all in all it was a really good day.

Sorry the pic isn't the best I have yet to GO and get one done.